Dear Pat,

I wanted to thank you again for everything you said about Kristopher last Thursday. He was such a great guy and I miss him so much. I cry every morning and every nite. You and Brooke meant alot to him and he talked about you two often.

I know when we were growing up you were his main dude. He thought the world of you. He and all your friends did so much together. Tomorrow we will be scattering his ashes in the ocean. I will be broken all over again. He would have totally wanted that- his ashes in the ocean. For some reason I feel like we are setting him free.

Kristopher was the best of everything, brother, friend, uncle, son, you name it. He loved and cared about everyone in his life. We should all live that way. He will be terribly missed and loved from afar.

I just wanted you and Brooke to know we were all thinking of you and knowing very well how much you loved and cared about him. I am still trying to figure why he had to go. My only hope is that he is happy and making fun of all of us down here.

Take care yourself and your new bride- she is beautiful. Live as though he watches you and wants the best for you. Please email me your address so that we can mail you something. Thanks, Pat, you have no idea how comforting it is to know he was loved by you.

NS

Hi Pat,
I have tried to write this
email for a week and nothing seems sufficient or eloquent enough to
tell you how sorry I am that you lost such a great friend. I have
thought of you all a million times a day since Libby called to tell
me...it's been hard for ME to wrap my head around it, so I can't
imagine how all of you feel.

I never got to meet Kris in person--I was hoping to this fall when I
was planning on visiting Libby--but I feel like I know him so well
since Libby has the amazing ability to tell you everything about
someone in way that makes you feel like you've already met them. I
know how much he adored my best friend, how in love with her he
was...and via Libby I know how much he loved all of his friends. I
know he was such a huge part of all of your lives...and like
everything you've described on your website, just an amazing force of
a human being. I talk to Libby everyday and there's either a new
story that brings tears, or one that brings great laughter. Libby
and Johnny said the ceremony was amazing and I'm sure Zeus was loving
every minute of having all the people he loved in one place to honor
him. What is so awesome about your group of friends is that I know
you'll take the essence of his spirit forward and live a piece of him
each day.

I just really wanted to let you know that I've been thinking of you.
Your website was as savior last week when I know Libby had so much
going on...it gave me a place to keep tabs on things and it helped me
fell more connected to her...so thank you so very much. I have a
feeling Zeus is taking care of all of you from above. I hope this
finds you doing as well as can be expected...know that you are in my
thoughts.

BG

Hey Pat,

Not sure if you remember me but I used to hangout with Asher Girgan and the
Bosacco's on 101st. I heard about what happened on the internet so I did
some more searching and found your site. Kris was an unbelievable person,
didn't matter if I was in Avalon or Stone harbor winter or summer I would
run into him at the most random places. I never met his family except for
Mike but I just wanted to say I am sorry for your loss.

Take care,
BR

It goes without saying that I am devastated by the loss of Kris. I just found out today and am deeply saddened by his passing on. I remember vividly the day you introduced him to me 12 years ago as we skated in front of my apartment down the block from FIT. Kris was one of those rare people who had the ability to intoxicate others with his smile and he did so for me on any occasion in which we hung out. It was like yesterday when he and Libby came to pick me up from the airport for your wedding.

Having lost someone who was closest to me in this world I know what you are going through and wish to take this opportunity to extend any aid that I can offer. Call any time no matter what the hour and feel free ask for whatever you need. I read what you wrote about Kris and thought your words were eloquent and touching and of course in typically charming fashion consistent with your group of friends from south Jersey, a group of people I have fondly grown to appreciate for their talent, creativity and dedication to each other. His loss will forever place a void in your lives, hearts and lineup but the strength in your friendships will be the support necessary to value and honor his life....

DC

It was nice to see you the other week although I wish it had been under much better circumstances. Thanks for your words at the service. As I said to you at the Avalon Rec that night - you really made me feel a lot better. What you said was perfect - sad, funny, and so so Kris. Your blog also has been amazing during this whole process. To know that someone else is feeling what I have been feeling - and not to speak for Megan but I do know she feels the same exact way - and to read your memories and what you are going through brings some comfort that we are not alone in how we are feeling. We all miss him a whole lot. It is hard to come to the realization that things are not going to ever be the same. Thank you so much again and I have been thinking of you and all his friends during this time. Hopefully we can catch up next time you are back East.

Take care!

DC

Pat,

After running into you today at the mall, I had a hankerin' to check out your site. I met Kris shortly after I moved to St. Augustine, I think he was there visiting. I just remember him and all his friends (probably you included) saying "TBH" non-stop. Actually, he somehow left his driver license at my apartment and that was my first fake ID, which I used on trip to San Diego. I don't remember him well, but I do remember him being a really nice and outgoing guy. I'm really sorry to hear that he passed; from your words and pictures, he seems like a classic guy and a great friend, who will be missed by many.

Best of luck to you as you obtain your PhD and head out to do whatever you may do.

Hey Pat - I wanted to pass along some pictures I had of Kris... not sure if you remember me, i dated Kris that summer and we hung out a lot at his place and a small house on 12th street that friends from my high school (Villa Maria) rented. You were in an intern at the wetlands and you once brought me out one of the boats that summer to collect the crab traps (probably b/c i kept asking a million questions and you were sick of answering them). Needless to say, I know how much he thought of you then and I know it's probably only grown tenfold since - I am so sorry for your loss of such a great friend. Although our relationship was brief, I have some of the fondest memories of Kris and found the news of his death completely devastating. I was able to completely relate to you about the pajama top you wore to his service b/c I still have a hawaiian shirt he got at some rummage sale and gave to me that summer. I still expect to go into Bud's and see his huge smile behind the deli asking me how things are...Anyway, I've got a million stories I can share but just wanted to pass along some pictures.

Hang in there,

I want to express my condolences to you, your family, and your friends on the loss of Kris. Nate was a good friend of Kris and he was crushed at this turn of events. I can only imagine how hard this must be for you and your circle of friends. Kris was obviously a very special person - and even if you only met him once, you never forgot him.

When I found out that Kris had passed away, I did a search on the internet looking for information and happened upon your website. Since then, I have visited your site periodically and I feel compelled to tell you that your pix and your words have provided many people with a lot of comfort during such a sad time.

I was on the beach with my kids on the day of the 110th Street memorial. I had my camera with me and I took some pictures. It dawned upon me the other day that I might want to share them with friends of Kris - so I thought I'd send them to you. I've attached a slide show of the pix that I took that day. They are by no means great, artistic pictures...but they might give you a snapshot of how special the memorial looked from up on the sand.

I hope you don't find me presumptuous for writing and assuming you want these pictures. If you don't, please just delete the file and disregard this message. At the same time, I hope you enjoy them. I didn't know a lot of people there, but Nate was happy to see them as many of his friends were there to celebrate Kris' memory that day.

My best to you and yours,